Stop trying to dress this up as if you are the injured party.
Since when has it become acceptable to shout at people…especially a lady…within the confines of an aircraft cabin…her place of work…in front of children (your own) and presumably other passengers?
Did it make you feel a better man shouting at a woman? And badgering her for an answer…what are you, 7 years of age?
In my younger days I worked in a customer service role and observed that men were quick to be nasty and aggressive when dealing with female members of staff…less so when dealing with a man. Maybe you just don’t like the fact that a woman told you “where to get off with yourself” and moreso had the authority and responsibility to do so.
From what you’ve posted it sounds that the CSD was completely right. And her comments about your parenting skills were spot on.
Good for her!!!